For example, if you're tolerating a great degree of pain, anxiety or fear for long enough, your mind and body will want to shut down and numb yourself from responding to the triggering stimuli. You may start taking depressants (like alcohol) or become overly avoidant or even stop experiencing your feelings all together. Similarly, if you stayed in a shut down state where you're emotionless, your mind/body will gravitate towards things that make you feel alive. You may engage in high risk activities or take stimulants or even self-harm. These subconscious regulating strategies can be harmful to yourself, others and your relationships.